Marriage Matters!

The TV Show “Modern Family” is a comedic interpretation of modern family life. Lining it up with what Ephesians 5:21-6:4 teaches about marriage and parenting, the show portrays a dysfunctional worldview of relationships.

Our culture presents a distorted view of marriage, which includes a role reversal of husbands and wives. The feminist critique of men would be that they have treated women like rubbish for too long and women need to get tougher, independent and successful so they won’t get pushed around. The Bible’s answer to cruel and harsh treatment of women is for men to repent and both genders to embrace their biblical roles and have their hearts transformed by God’s Spirit.

Ephesians 5:21-33 is a controversial passage about the role of husbands and wives. It’s the longest statement in the New Testament on the subject. To understand the text, we need to take into account the Genesis account (Ch1-3).

The wife’s role begins with submission (voluntary yielding of oneself in love) to the husband because he represents her headship in the family unit. God has established a divine pattern in the home just as he has in the church. Christ is the head of the church and the husband is the head of the wife.

Headship is not an employer-employee contract. Headship pursues the wife as Christ pursues us. Headship goes first in repentance and sacrifice. Headship takes responsibility for one’s self and the home. Headship is a privilege and not sexist or chauvinistic. Headship that reflects Christ is what wives will want to submit to.

The husbands headship isn’t to be forced, harsh or cruel towards the wife but is to be exercised in love. The husbands role is to love the wife as Christ loved the church. The nature of the husbands love is sacrificial, loyal, servant hearted and giving.

The husbands goal is to inspire his wife toward Christ and saturate the one-flesh relationship in the Scriptures. Too many couples carry their autonomous singleness into their marriage and wonder why it doesn’t work. Marriage calls for a dying to oneself and an embracing of the biblical roles God has ordained for both husband and wife.

The mystery of marriage is that it is a picture of Christ’s relationship with the church and the churches relationship to Christ as the head of the church. Now wonder darkness wants to destroy the family unit because God created it and it represents everything that is good, holy and Godly.

There are an abundant of ministries to women in the church because statistically there are more women in the church than men. It’s great that women are in the church but men need to step up and play their role as spiritual leaders of the home and in the church. Wives draw your man to yourself and respect him for who he is. Marriage won’t make you a man, it will only amplify what is already inside of you, good or bad!

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